There Are No Social Media Gods

Over the past two weeks, I’ve had the opportunity to meet face-to-face with several talented folks involved in the field of social communications. At an in-house digital communications event in Dallas last week, I enjoyed excellent conversations with Barbra Rozgonyi of WiredPRWorks and Deidre Walsh of Jive Software. Today, at a meeting of the Social Media Club of Philadelphia, I had the pleasure of connecting with SMC Philly organizer Gloria Bell, blogger Cecily Kellogg of Uppercase Woman, and author and co-founder of Zoetica, Geoff Livingston, among others. The presentations and sidebar discussions with each of these good folks were informative and inspirational for me. All of them were warm and willing to talk.

This post isn’t about name dropping, however. Each of these individuals helped to cement a new perspective for me: there are no social media gods. There are only people.

I’ve been involved in social communications for almost two years now, and I continue to feel like a relative newcomer when interfacing with folks in this circle. There are a bevy of brilliant luminaries from every industry and skillset, and it can become daunting when you see a rapid-fire set of ideas, concepts, and opinions in your social streams each day. I confess to being a bit over-enthusiastic at times (“geeking out”) when talking to these folks, but, more so, I’ve unconsciously treated some as though there were deities: masters of their domain, untouchable. I see the same patterns in others and have heard stories of backlash when expressing differing opinions to the social gods.

For us folks invested in the social space, we have to remember that we are dealing with human beings, all the time. Not just the individuals who we’re reaching out to (and helping others do the same), but each other.  That’s the “social” in social media, of course, but I get the feeling the “human” aspect is lost from time to time. Respect and professionalism are prerequisites, but we can’t be afraid to share stories, offer contrasting opinions or constructive criticism, and give praise where deserved. We each have strengths, weaknesses, and our own unique personalities, but turning social communications into a “cult of personality” is not where we need to go.

My recent interactions were positive precisely because we all treated each other like people, not figures, metrics, or influencers to be courted. I hope to see more of this as my knowledge and network grows and fewer instances of “false idols.”

So, what’s the moral? Be warm, be generous, be fair, but, most of all, be human. I will.

  • http://www.3hatscommunications.com/blog/ davinabrewer

    I’ve been star-struck Mike, and unstruck just the same. So-and-so name drop tweets my post or replies to my comment in a good way, it’s a good feeling. Graces my blog with their presence and that’s a win. Then you pay attention, catch them being ‘human’ and tweeting about lunch, sharing a ho-hum blog post or just having a bad day, and wonder where are those deep social insights we expected? Doesn’t work like that, we are more than the sum of our tweets and blogs. I’ve gotta be me, which means I’m as likely to disagree with a friend as a rock star, share something fun and silly as much as something smart and insightful. FWIW.

    • Anonymous

      Davina, welcome! I love your statement, “we are more than the sum of our tweets and blogs,” and think that’s a great summation. I’ve become nearly “unstruck” myself with self-perceived “unworthy” tweets and have to remind myself that they’re the human factor everyone is rallying for.

      I see that you’ve positioned yourself as an aggressive commenter, and that’s perfect! These like and reply links aren’t going to activate themselves. :-) Thanks for your thoughts and hope to see you here again soon!

      • http://www.3hatscommunications.com/blog/ davinabrewer

        This is getting reblogged in some capacity. Just thinking about blogging and community, about the up-and-comers and ‘old guard’ and what cuts through all of it: our personalities, our real, human sides. Hmm.. wheels a-turning.

  • http://wiredprworks.com Barbara Rozgonyi

    Thanks for your thoughtful post, Mike. 

    This sentence jumped out: “For us folks invested in the social space, we have to remember that we are dealing with human beings, all the time.”

    So true – being mindful of the humanity that goes into interaction goes a long way towards securing real connections and relationships. Although some have louder social media voices, everyone’s opinion counts.

    Enjoyed meeting you and I appreciate your genuine enthusiasm!

    Barbara

    • Anonymous

      Thanks for your perspective and your compliments, Barbara; I seem to have enthusiasm in spades these days. :-) Your “everyone’s opinion counts” quote is a great corollary to my thoughts.

  • Anonymous

    We all put our pants on one leg at a time.  Each of us has an opportunity to do something special everyday, but it is a choice, and living on yesterday’s successes means very little.

    • Anonymous

      Excellent thoughts, Geoff. I agree that we shouldn’t just rest on our laurels. I try hard to learn, share, and collaborate as best I can each day, but I need reminders like this, too. Thank you!

  • Kathydibling

    Been a great 2 weeks. I am still taking it all in. And, Gods? We make them.

    • Anonymous

      I agree, Kathy, it’s been a great ride in the social communications arena this month.

      Have you read either Terry Pratchet or Neil Gaiman? Both authors have storylines where gods’ powers are derived solely from how ardent their followers are. No followers, no power. Something to consider for all of us, perhaps?

  • http://twitter.com/MadSocial Rania Madanat

     There are no social media God’s, Guru’s, or Experts. Social media changes every day!  It is the world at our finger tips and an audience we may never meet otherwise. ”Be human”, be yourself, contribute knowledge, and absorb knowledge in the world of social media. 

    • Anonymous

      Good thoughts all around, Rania. :-) 

  • http://twitter.com/deirdrewalsh Deirdre Walsh

    Hi, Mike.  I was thrilled to be part of the Federal Reserve’s Wedge Conference in large part because I enjoyed meeting wonderful people like you.  I agree it’s sometime easy to listen to the folks with the most fans or followers, but the truth is – in social we are all still learning.  Hello, I put a B2B company on MySpace in 2006! 

    Thanks for sharing your insights and look forward to staying in touch – human to human. ;) 

    • Anonymous

      “We are all still learning” – my sentiments exactly, Deirdre. I’m glad we had the chance to meet at WEDGE, too, and I will absolutely stay in touch. :-) Thank you for your kind words.

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